Presents, Parades or Prophecy?

“Do we HAVE to listen?”

“Yes…it is 7 verses.  Just listen.”  

Those were the objections from my oldest and my rebuttals as we discussed our December 1st scripture reading about the prophecy of Jesus.  I get it.   She would rather be opening presents from her Granddaddy that we are visiting for the weekend, or going to the Christmas parade where Santa throws candy from a fire engine that is scheduled for later in the afternoon.  Christmas seems to have more flare to an eight year old when it is wrapped in bows or covered in sweets.  I am glad we pushed through…

As I read Isaiah’s prophecy (9:2-7) I realized that the kids might actually be able to share helpful thoughts throughout this month on what they are learning in December.  

We read, 

“…they rejoice before you as people rejoice at the harvest…”

The object lesson was ideal this morning as just minutes before we had looked out over my dad’s farm and saw the land where the soybeans had been harvested.   Later that afternoon they took a combine ride…we literally experienced a view of “the harvest.”  

So I pushed…

“Why would someone rejoice over a harvest?”

The one who had not wanted to have this discussion piped in, “hmm…because they had been waiting for food for months to grow and they finally can eat it!”  

Okay.  Good.  

Moving on, 

“Unto us a child is born, to us a son is given.” 

Same child, “well, babies take a long to time come–so that was probably exciting too.”  

“Yes.  Now–this was not just any baby–tell me about this baby…”

The middle child, “this baby will rule over the world, He will be the prince of peace.”  

My baby pipes in, “he will be someone to praise.”   (Then he ran off after his Granddaddy and the dogs.)

“So what is this really about?”

“It is about waiting…just like we have to wait for our Christmas presents from Grandaddy and Grand Pickett–the people were waiting for this baby.  It is hard to wait…I bet it was hard for them to wait.”  

“Yep, and I bet they REALLY were ready for this baby–cause we are REALLY ready for our presents!”  

Isaiah talks about the people being in darkness.  They were longing for a Savior.   Farmers still wait for the harvest to come…and mothers anxiously await their child’s birth, children wait for Christmas presents on Christmas day…we understanding waiting.  I can only imagine the anxious anticipation from long ago as the people awaited a Wonderful Counselor, a Prince of Peace…a King that would uphold justice and righteousness from that time on and forever!  

Through this baby there would be HOPE.  I am so thankful that we are able to celebrate the birthday of One who enters in to darkness and brings peace.  

May You Be a Blessing and May You Be Blessed!

Jenni



A Re-Gift You Will Want to Re-Gift!

Chris and I volunteer at an afterschool tutoring program once a week for under resourced children in the community.  We help with tutoring and then lead a “large group” time that really felt like pure chaos last night!  The kids were incredibly wild and so we threw out the original lesson and spent the majority of the time singing, “Go Bananas–Go Go Bananas,” playing “Simon Says,” and other physical games which forced kids to move and get some energy out.  We finished with a mad-lib of “The Night Before Christmas.”  I think there was a mention of, “when what to my wondering eyes should appear but a furry sleigh and 42 tiny porcupines.”

 Literally the last 30 seconds of our time Chris together said, “I have something to tell you–this Christmas thing–there is a REALLY crazy story about it–not just the Santa stuff–but there is more–and it is CRAZY and we are going to talk about that next week!”  That was it.  Two girls came running up to me and said, “I think I know what the crazy story is about…Christmas is God’s birthday.”  Another boy said, “my mom reads to me from her Spanish Bible and it says that Christmas is about Jesus.”    

Yep.  It is.  

Why don’t we act like it?  Why do we get so hung up in the tree trimming, the party going, the present buying, and the turkey stuffing that we actually miss the simplicity and purity of the whole thing?

I don’t want to miss it!   The crazy story of God’s love.  The crazy story of a God who put skin on.  A God who wanted to relate and understand life, pain, friendship, betrayal, hope, laughter and love from our point of view.  Love came down because He would rather die than live without me (and you.)  I don’t want to miss the celebration of that crazy story.  

This Christmas I want to re-gift a gift that was given to me.  Ray Seigler was our mentor, friend, and employer throughout our 20s.  He sent Chris and I a set of readings so that we might be able to take a few moments each day of December to reflect on this crazy story and this crazy love.  I realized that the readings might be a gift to others–one that would be worth sharing!  Consider it an early Christmas present from me.  I pray that He might show up for you in December as you reflect on the meaning of this month.  I pray that it would be a sweet time, a slow time, and an intimate time…just you and Jesus. 

Here are Ray’s suggestions for your reading time:

Read one each day December 1st through Christmas Day.  If you miss a day, don’t make it up.  Just enjoy today’s reading.  

Set aside a time when you are most likely to be alert and paying attention.  Allow at least 15 minutes…some may want longer…it is up to you.

The whole point of the readings and setting aside time is to have a more personal encounter with Jesus this Christmas.  The readings lead us from the Old Testament prophecies about Jesus, through His birth, in to the comments of the Apostles about Him. 

Before you read, ask God to guide you, and to speak to you personally in your reading.  

Read through the passage once…then read through it again more slowly, maybe two or three times, to let it sink in.

Ask yourself:  

What does this say about Jesus?
About me?
About my relationship with Him?

Relax and enjoy…God wants to be with us more than we ever thought about wanting to be with him.  

December 
1  Isaiah 9:2-7
2  Isaiah 7:14
3  Isaiah 35:1-7
4  Isaiah 40:1-5
5  Isaiah 42: 1-18
6  Isaiah 53:1-12
7  Luke 1:26-33
8  Luke 1:34-38
9  Luke 1:39-45
10  Matthew 1:18-21
11  Matthew 1:22-25
12  Luke 2:1-7
13  Luke 2:8-14
14  Luke 2:15-20
15  Matthew 2: 1-12
16  Luke 2:21-32
17  John 1:1-5
18  John 1:6-13
19  John 1:14-18
20  1 John 1:1-4
21  1 John 1:5-10
22  1 John 4:7-11
23  1 Peter 2:21-35
24  Hebrews 1:1-4
25  Philippians 2-5-11

May You Be a Blessing and 
May You Have a Meaningful Month!

Jenni 



The GIFT Doesn’t Matter…So Get Over It!

Don’t get me wrong.  

I LOVE a thoughtful gift as much as the next girl!  But as we have simplified over the past 6 months I am acutely aware that THINGS don’t matter.  

So please do not spend the next 27 days obsessing over what to buy your mother-in-law or your children for that matter!?! 

As I have purged I have asked the question:  “When is enough, enough?”  We live with so much more than the rest of the world and we rarely feel satisfied or content.  In reality, we have plenty.   Without a single present under the tree.  Plenty.  So the first thing I suggest is being creative with your gifts…

Recently I heard:  “something you want, something you need, something you wear, something you read.”  I like it.   Others give 3 gifts representing the 3 wise men who brought gifts to Baby Jesus.  They were WISE men.  And if it was enough for Him, it is probably enough for my kiddos! 

There is a sale in our ballet studio right now and I bought Kylee’s leotard and tights for next year.  The saleswoman (who might have felt sorry for my child who was getting the “needed” items for instruction next year as a Christmas present) suggested that with the leotard I make a gift card for her to go to dance camp this coming summer.  It is something she will beg to do–why not make it a special gift?!  I love it…done.   

As for the folks on your list that are hard to buy for?  We all know it really is not about “the gift” but about the thought and love behind it…

Get creative!  Consider going global…

 (Sevenly )  is one of my new favorite sites.  It is a little like TOMS where it is a “gift within a gift!”  

Give a COW for Christmas??   (World Vision Christmas Gift) allows you to give amazing gifts to families in need all over the world in the name of the person you giving to

This is an AWESOME MINIMALIST LIST  with 36 additional suggestions on keeping it simple…and not about the STUFF.    
May You Be a Blessing and May YOU BE A GIFT!

Jenni 

7 Ways to Get Out of Your HEAD While Running!

I might be one of the “headiest” runners on the planet.    

Don’t get me wrong…I do run, but I rarely experience the pure joy and euphoric bliss that surrounds a long runs’ reputation.  I find it repetitive, exhausting, and hard on my joints.  Science continues to prove that steady state running certainly is not the most efficient or effective way to exercise, lose weight or even maintain weight.   

Yet I run because I know that it has awesome heart health benefits.  I run because in balanced doses it builds bone density.   I run because (to quote my favorite trainer) “athlete’s run.”  I run because I train my clients to be athletes.  I run because I need to be able to get away from an attacker–or to rescue one of my children who is beyond arm’s reach.  I run because my body was designed so uniquely that I am able to run…so I run because I can.  

Inspiring right?  Well truth be told, I am far from the world’s most inspiring runner and I find my head tripping up my feet.   Most days I need external motivation to get myself in the mood to run, never mind actually put my peds to the pavement.

So any excuse my clients use to discuss why they do not run–I have already formulated and thought through.  While going for a run today I realized that I might be able to shed some light (or hope) on some of the things that have helped me to push through my headiness and simply RUN.   Here are a few “get out of my head hints” to help you choose mind over matter and embrace what your body was designed to do!

The KEY is to create an environment that forces you to say, “YES” to a run.  Below are a few suggestions on how to get out of your head and on to the road! 

1.  Set a Goal.  Choose a local 5k or 10k to complete.  Or choose a race distance that you have run before but plan on decreasing your time or increasing your speed for the new race. 

2.  Find a visually interesting spot.  Run near water, trees, or a place that is new or has interesting things to view.  If you are sucking in smog or looking at the same neighborhood you drive through every day it could be what is setting up some mental road blocks.  

3.  A Rockin’ Playlist.   Earbuds and some great jams go hand in hand with a great run.  Find some really motivating tunes that will carry you through the first mile or two and remember…  

4.  The first mile is ALWAYS the worst.  Period.   Go slow…one foot in front of the other and tell yourself that it is a warm up.  Ignore the discomfort and push through–it does get better.  

5.  Create New Mantras.  Often “heady” runners have bad tapes that play over and over again.  “I can’t…I hurt or I am going to get hurt…I am tired…I can’t run that far…I can’t breathe…I am not built to run…”   Those need to be replaced with, “I am strong, fast, and more than capable to complete this run. I am an athlete.”  

6.  Fuel Properly.    When I am not hydrated or haven’t eaten well and fueled properly  before my run I literally feel like I am running on empty.  To avoid the empty tank and feeling crumby on a run…fuel properly.

7.  Find a FRIEND.  Better than any other motivator…I have found that another runner who shows up and holds me accountable to both complete the run but also pushes me REALLY helps.  Find your runner girls…get out of your head and get running!

May You Be A Blessing and May You RUN!

Jenni




Wanna Be An Elf or Need Some Elf-spiration???

Be prepared to laugh and receive some “elf-spiration” once you watch Sprinkle and Dinkle get in the Christmas spirit! ** 

Friends have asked if they can still be involved in the Watoto Christmas project…and I HAVE THE ANSWER!  

Some donated boxes will likely contain “unauthorized” gifts*.  We will have to replace certain items in the boxes with other items.  

Enter YOU.  

This week I am going to be taking donations of gently used (or new) items that could help fill “incomplete” boxes.  

Have items to share?  Here is the general guidelines for what we are looking for and the age/gender breakdowns.  (I excluded the little ones–those boxes seem to come in complete and FULL…the older kids and moms are the ones who seem to need some assistance.)

  • 11–16yrs: comic books, novels, board games, card games, jigsaw puzzles, hair clips, yo-yos
  • 17yrs+: caps, designer T-shirts, watches, wallets, purses, novels, jewelry, lotions, nail polish
  • Mums (widows/caretakers): lotions, body scents, scarves, shower gels, hand creams, journals, devotionals, jewelry, purse, nail polish 
Please DO double bag any liquids using Ziploc bags.
*Please DO NOT INCLUDE:   War-related items such as toy guns, knives or military figures; ANY food, medications or vitamins; breakable items; aerosol cans; hygiene items such as toothbrushes, toothpaste, combs, etc. as they are already provided through Watoto sponsorships.

I will be receiving donations through December 2nd.  


Please contact me directly or via:   

hopeforwatoto@gethope.net  (attention Jenni Cockerham)

No donations…but still want to serve??  I HAVE OPTIONS!

Please consider writing a handwritten letter.  This can be from YOU or your children or both!  Many boxes we have received so far do not have letters!   Please specify what gender/age group on the envelope! (2-5, 6-10, 11-16, 17+, Mum)

You can also help with our sorting project on December 3rd:


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Thank you for being willing to consider sharing out of the overflow of what God has given you!  

Jenni and Laura Peters 
(attend West Cary?–Laura can give you more info as well!) 

Living Outside the Lines

There are many written and unwritten laws and lines that tell us how to behave and how not to behave.  Grafiti is  an illicit activity, one that is outside the bounds of the law.

Graffiti is often frowned upon.  This book celebrates graffiti and living outside the lines.  It tells stories of lives blending together to make beautiful art.  It does not stay within the bounds of the social  “law” or the four walls of your home.  It speaks of lives mingling with other lives and it all being quite messy.  It speaks of brokenness and of God’s redemption.

Graffiti:  Scribbles from Different Sides of the Street is a short read and for this week only a FREE read!  44 pages long with tales of two lives intertwined and how God makes us all wonderfully uncomfortable so that we can better know Him and his heart.  The holidays are a wonderful time to become inspired as to how you might share your life with another.  May Graffiti be the perfect catalyst for your journey!

For the next week this book will be FREE to those who click here:

http://www.graffitithebook.com/ 


May You Be a Blessing and May You Be Blessed! 

Jenni  

Hope For Watoto…Christmas Style!

The SILENCE is being broken.

I am only going online for work purposes…and somewhere in between trying to honor and respect my “7” girls and also recognize that Greater work needs to be done I wanted to share with you the information about Watoto Christmas boxes this year!

Last week we began distributing Christmas boxes for the children of Watoto! (http://www.watoto.com/)   We have already had an overwhelming response!  The boxes are going to be filled with toys, games, books and other special items for ALL the children and moms of Watoto.   Because the people of Uganda speak English–the boxes can be filled with a personal letter from YOU!

Here is a link to more information!  

http://www.gethope.net/events/watoto-christmas-boxes-12-2

We have a few more boxes left at our Cary and Holly Springs campuses…so please grab yours this weekend…or email me and I will save you one!  (By the by, Chris is speaking this weekend in Holly Springs so it is a GREAT weekend to come visit us!)  

We are so very excited to share this opportunity…here’s a little more about our trip to Uganda!


May You Be a Blessing and May You Be Blessed!

Jenni

Radio Silent

I have heard it said that you spell LOVE…T  I  M  E.    We invest our time in all that we love.  Our values reflect how we spend our time.  On paper I say that I value my relationship with God and my family first–but my quiet times and quality time with my kids tell a different story.  We often say we value our health but our time invested in exercise or shopping for healthy food do not reflect this reality.  We say that TV is not a priority but studies say we spend 5-8 hours a day watching it.  

Enter the uncomfortable book 7 that asks me to take a hard look at excess and the excess that comes in the form of MEDIA.  Which means…for the next 21 days we will be going radio silent.  As best we can…we are going to try to limit the crazy amount of “input” that enters our world.  

Did ya know…

The average American spends 32 hours a month on the internet.

Average hours of TV watching in one day ranged from 5.1-8.5 hours a day depending on demographic and age group and survey. 

The average American is exposed to 61 minutes of tv and internet ads and promotions a day.

Here’s a startling stat:  The average youth spends 900 hours in school per year.  The average youth spend 1,200 hours watching TV per year.  

Yikes, okay I don’t want to be a statistic.  

So this month we are going bare bones minimum on media:

No…
TV, video games, facebook/twitter, phone apps, radio/ipod/music, texting (unless it saves time–and is necessary), or internet (unless for work)

I do not do this because I think it will make me a better person–although I might like who I discover I am at the end of the month!  I don’t do this for the sheer challenge of it–although I have never been above a good challenge.  I don’t do this because I think media is evil…I think there are great things out there and Friends continues to be in our home the ultimate 20 minutes of entertainment.    

I do believe we are on input overload and more often than not this causes me to be distracted.  We use media to entertain, anesthetize, or disconnect from the world around us.   Social media can replace real conversations, real connections, and real relationships.  I want slowness and simplicity in it’s most raw form.  

I want less distractions in my life. 

I don’t pretend this will be easy!  I don’t know what I am going to do when the kids are making me crazy and all I want to do is turn on a “show” so that I can have 30 minutes of peace and quiet.   I don’t know what I am going to do when I have a super funny situation to share like when Joshua asked me if I had lost my penis or Caleb threw up in my hands–those went immediately to the Facebook wall.  Where will they go now?  

Heavenstobetsey…I guess I have 21 days to figure it out.  But I have a feeling I am going to like the quiet.  I will miss blogging because it is like therapy for me.  I hope to surface on the other side more refreshed and with a healthier perspective on the stillness and a greater appreciation for what media has to offer: in small doses!  

Suggestions for my friends who like the idea of opting out of media for the month???  

Consider unplugging from TV for a week…the White House will wait and you will probably just miss a lot of mud slinging anyway!  

Unsubscribe…How many emails do you delete in one day???  I want to HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend you UNSUBSCRIBE from all of your “ad” emails.    Some take as many as 5-10 days to stop…but I did this and my inbox has SLOWED SIGNIFICANTLY!!!!   You can always re-subscribe if you really miss one or two.  It REALLY simplifies your inbox…and quiets your world.

Give your Internet Surfing and Facebook or Phone Apps a week off…how often do you check your fb or click on an app while bored in line at the grocery store or waiting in carpool?  I am the queen of multi-tasking…but wonder what it would be like to go a week without my fb or phone apps??  

I share this to encourage more intentional quiet moments.  To be distraction free…and to reduce the noise pollution that pervades our lives.  I care about this for me and my family but I care about it for my friends as well.   In the end…LOVE=TIME…and I certainly don’t love MEDIA more than my family…so it time for me to spend the next 21 days living that out. 

May You Be a Blessing and May You Be Quiet,

Jenni 




  

My New Heroes

How does one shift their mindset from victim to victor?  How does one endure a life of pain, persecution, and poverty and yet still seek to find hope for their future?

There is a human tenacity that we see time and again.  A person endures great hardship and survives what most of us find unthinkable conditions.  We are inspired.

There is another level that surpasses tenacity.  It is where a human not only survives…but their lives are filled with inexplicable joy and peace.  These people actually find forgiveness for their brutal attackers, they find comfort where there once was fear, they find hope for their future.   These people are my heroes.

In northern Uganda a major civil war took place and ended just 6 short years ago.  The war left the country with thousands of children who had once been abducted from their homes as child soldiers to return “home” and find a new life.  Unfortunately, many of those children were not accepted in their villages as they had committed murder.   Most of the girls had been brutally raped and had birthed children to their military “husbands” that had abused them.  These girls came home from the war with multiple children…children that they did not want or have the means to support.   Others came home with HIV and no skills as they had not been in school for many years, if ever.   Where does one go?  

Thankfully, God planted a vision in the hearts of Gary and Marilyn Skinner years and years ago to “care for the widows and orphans” of Uganda.  They began Watoto church in the 1970s and in the 90’s started children’s villages.   This vision has grown to multiple church campuses, 3 baby homes and 3 villages for orphans and displaced women who become mothers to these children.   They also have started an awesome ministry called Living Hope for women who have been estranged…their husband may have died of AIDS or they themselves were child soldiers.  Living Hope teaches women life skills, provides crisis counseling, and also teaches them certain trades like how to sew, make jewelry, and peanut butter.   Having read the stories of the Living Hope women in the book Return to Dignity I was anxiously awaiting our visit to this particular program.  I was blown away by what I experienced.  The first thing that happened when we got there was this:



The joyful “noise” that the woman at the end was making was one of greeting, welcome.  

Immediately I remembered this passage:  

You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing.
You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy, that I might sing praises to you and not be silent.  
Lord my God, I will give you thanks forever! 
Psalm 30:11,12

Our next stop was the Gulu village.  This is the home of hundreds of orphans who have now found homes and wonderful mothers, thanks to the heart and leadership of Watoto church.  The Watoto baby homes are filled with babies abandoned in trash heaps, latrines, or even hospitals.  Still others have lost their parents to war, AIDS, and poverty.  Watoto villages have given these children a new home and a new life.  When we arrived in Uganda a native asked us where we would be visiting.  When we told her Gulu she asked why we would want to go there?!  She said there were still land minds and other dangers left from the ravage of war.   We were so blessed to meet wonderful mothers and children from this area…and many more babies…they simply don’t have enough homes to place them in the villages yet.  In Watoto’s Laminadera village–located in Gulu, we walked up to these precious children singing.  They were not doing this for our benefit, they were just hanging out when we “happened” upon them: 



Please listen and re-listen to the words they are singing.  My kids have asked me over and over to watch this video.  They said, “Mom this is the best video ever!”  They are inspired by children who are survivors in every sense of the word.  They are children who the world has forgotten or ignored…but God has great plans for their lives.  The best part is: they believe it’s true.   Their joy, contentment, and hope makes them my new heroes.  

May You Be a Blessing and May You Be Blessed!

Jenni

I Await Africa…

There is a place I’ve longed to go.

It is full of joy and sorrow.

This place that I have only seen in books, is a place where God seems to have His hooks.

It would appear that devastation and depravity are all one sees…

But I am convinced I will learn from these:

Not sure what the next 2 weeks will hold, but know I will learn much–as each day unfolds.

I am ready to be wrecked.  I don’t want to be the same.

I pray most of all that I will come home changed.

No blog for a little while…

Think of me and Africa…say a prayer…and smile.

May You Be a Blessing and May You Be Blessed.

Jenni